What is your goal for your child with autism?
This is a question that I thought of when I really began to get advice from people. There were so many sources all saying different things. Some said definitely do this therapy while others said no kids with autism can’t do that. I felt like I was drowning in the noise. What is really important for my son? Is it to look like other kids his age? Is that the benchmark that we are striving towards? For him to be average? …
Something about saying that, “my goal is for my child to be average”…it doesn’t sit well with me. I would never say that about my neurotypical daughter. I want her to be extraordinary! Sure autism has challenges and difficulties, but it also has beautiful and amazing strengths. So what’s the goal? For him to not be labeled autistic? Does the label really matter?
See I think as parents we have a tendency to think that our kids should grow up a certain way and if they are not following that path that we see for them, then we somehow failed. I’ve realized on this journey that my ideas for my son, my goals, and dreams, and desires for him don’t matter if they don’t line up with God’s plan for his life. This is one of the main reasons for writing this blog because I saw the good qualities my son has because of autism. His unashamed joy at seemingly insignificant things. His Amazing memory and the fact that he doesn’t really care about what people think of him. Is it possible for God to heal my son of all the behaviors and struggles that hinder him but at the same time keep the great qualities?
So when I was seeking God for help with my son I was reminded of a verse in Luke.
Luke 1:37 New King James Version (NKJV)
37 For with God nothing will be impossible.
Yes God can. God can do the Impossible.
Stop limiting God based on your limited knowledge of autism. They are capable of great things and as for the behaviors and struggles…God’s got this! Stop trying to figure it all out on your own. God has a great plan for your child (Jeremiah 29:11). It’s time we, as parents, get in line with what God says about them. The goal is not to make my child look normal or to fit in with neurotypical people. I want more for him! I want God’s best for him!
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