I heard a message preached that changed how I thought and changed my perspective of Worry.
“Do not be anxious or worried about anything, but in everything [every circumstance and situation] by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, continue to make your [specific] requests known to God.” -Philippians 4:6
She read this verse and said “If the Bible, If God, told you not to do something, and you do it anyway, that’s sin.” WORRY = SIN
Man, that hit me like a ton of bricks. Now we all worry at some point in our lives. Some of us are natural born worriers, while others of us don’t really tend to worry about much. But whether you are a “worry wart” or an “I don’t give a rip” type of person, we all deal with worry at some point… especially if you have a child with special needs. There’s just that much more opportunity for things to worry about. Things like Insurance, IEP’s, diets, therapies, development, and on, and on, and on…..
I didn’t think I was much of a worrier. I don’t stay up at night, I don’t easily get stressed and worked up about all of it. So I thought I was good on the worry front. I didn’t have a problem with worry…
Well this preacher said something else that went off in me. “How do you know if you’re in worry … if you are thinking about it” Whoa. I thought about what to do with my son with autism and how best to help him CONSTANTLY. I spent hours upon hours reading autism articles and researching the ways other parents helped their kiddos with autism.
Now before you go crazy with this, I am not saying that you never think about anything. But if you have thought about it and you have brought it to God in prayer, It’s time to let it go. Stop thinking about it constantly. When we worry or think on how WE are going to fix it or what WE can do. We are doubting God’s ability to work in this situation.
WORRY is the offspring of Doubt and Fear.
Trust that God is working in your life and in your child’s life. Believe He knows the answer. Spend less time reading about autism and self help books and get in your Bible. I know first hand that this is LIFE Changing! I stopped. I stopped being consumed by it. I stopped worrying and thinking about what I could do for my son, how I would make it all work and how to be super mom. I simply prayed, a real honest prayer, something like this:
Father God, you know what we are facing, you know the struggle and obstacles we are up against and I finally realize I can’t do this on my own. You have the answers I need. I’m sorry for trying to figure it all out by myself. Forgive me. Help me. Remind me when I start to think about it again. I know you are the God who does the impossible, so I give our lives to you. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.
Since praying this way and purposing not to worry about autism and my son. He has made HUGE progress. He went from not speaking, only pointing to things (and sometimes not even that) to now he is speaking in sentences to communicate all his wants and needs. He used to have a complete meltdown if his tablet battery died, Now he will just ask for the plug and plug it in! I could go on about the ways he has improved but I think you get the idea.
God is good. And He’s got this and He’s got you. Stop worrying and let Him be God. Stop worrying and trust God to do the impossible in your life and your child’s life.
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